You should keep your goals to yourself.
Crazy right? I was always under the impression that telling people your goals made you more likely to follow through on them, but come to find out it has the opposite effect. It makes you far less likely to follow through.
Why is this? Well, think about a time you told somebody a goal you set for yourself. What did that person do? More than likely, this person congratulated you on this goal and you felt good about yourself. Therein lies the problem. You feel good about yourself and; as far as your brain is concerned, you have accomplished this goal. You’re brain is satisfied with this accomplishment and you are now no longer motivated to pursue this goal.
To paraphrase Derek Sivers, your brain is mistaking the talking for the doing.
It sounds crazy, but come to find out there have been a lot of studies done on this since the early 1900’s and there continues to be studies done to this very day. So what can you do about it? You have a couple of different options.
First, you could try to not tell people your goals. Just keep them to yourself until after you’ve accomplished them and have bragging rights. This is easier said than done for most people, including myself.
Your second option could be to ask your friends to hold you accountable, you could make a big deal out of it. Every Wednesday you and your buddies get together at the bar for a shaming party.
Whatever it takes.
Let me know what you think, I’d love to hear if you agree or disagree and why. Don’t forget to check out this short TED Talk from Derek Sivers himself.
Erik Dobell is a Mentalist that has travelled the world from New York to South Korea performing his one man show: The Mind Invader.
Currently he’s part of the Gatlinburg Tennessee based Magic and Mind-Reading show Impossibilities, opening in 2016 at the Iris Theater located at the base of the Iconic Gatlinburg Space Needle. For more information about that show visit www.ImpossibilitiesShow.com
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